Work With Me
This work is personal, embodied, and entirely led by you. Whether we meet in person in Oaxaca or online from wherever you are in the world, every session is built around your needs, your pace, and your own unfolding process.
Somatic Approaches to Common Concerns
When stress, trauma, or performance anxiety lock themselves into our nervous system, our bodies automatically build protective patterns. Traditional approaches often try to think or medicate our way out of these blocks. Somatic Sex Education and Coaching works directly with the body's intelligence to restore safety, presence, and vitality. Here are some common concerns we can gently explore together in my private practice in Oaxaca Centro (or online):
Erotic Aliveness, Transitions & General Disconnect
The Concern: Feeling a general lack of vitality, navigating major life transitions (postpartum, menopause, aging, or life after a major breakup), or simply feeling that there is "more" pleasure and connection available to you that you can't seem to access.
The Somatic Approach: You do not need to be experiencing a severe crisis or dysfunction to benefit from this work. Often, our bodies simply turn down the volume on our sensitivity to cope with daily modern stress. We use breath, somatic attention, and movement to gently clear out old emotional stagnation, helping you safely expand your capacity for pleasure, celebrate your body’s current season, and step into a deeply embodied, vibrant creative life.
Boundary Burnout & Lost Desire
The Concern: Saying "yes" when you want to say "no" (fawning), feeling guilt around your desires, or experiencing a "dead" sex life in your relationship.
The Somatic Approach: Using frameworks like the "Wheel of Consent", we practice the somatic sensation of boundaries. You will learn to recognise the physical sensation of a true "Yes" and a true "No" in your flesh, allowing you to communicate your desires clearly and step out of habitual performance-based intimacy.
Anxiety & Performance Blocks
The Concern: Chronic performance anxiety, erectile dissatisfaction, premature ejaculation, or difficulty with lubrication, opening, and reaching orgasm due to overthinking, pressure, or "spectatoring" (watching yourself perform).
The Somatic Approach: These issues are often the result of a nervous system stuck in a sympathetic "fight or flight" response. When the mind is focused on performing or achieving a goal, the body’s natural arousal response is automatically put on hold. Instead of using mental distractions or pills, we work from the ground up—retraining pelvic floor awareness, slowing down the breath, and expanding your body's capacity to hold high sensations without tipping into anxiety.
Numbness & Disassociation
The Concern: Feeling "numb" or disconnected in your pelvis, or completely "freezing/leaving your body" during intimate moments.
The Somatic Approach: Numbness is a profound form of bodily protection. We don't push through it. Instead, we honor the numbness and use micro-movements, sensory awakening, and somatic attention to slowly rebuild the neural pathways of pleasure at your nervous system’s exact comfort level.
Pain & Physical Clenching
The Concern: Pain or extreme tightness during penetration or touch (vaginismus or pelvic discomfort where medical causes have been ruled out).
The Somatic Approach: The pelvic floor muscles are highly sensitive to emotional stress and boundary violations, often "bracing" automatically. Through gentle, trauma-informed somatic tracking and body mapping, we help your system unlearn this defensive loop, shifting the body from a state of protection to one of deep permission.
One-On-One Sessions
Individual sessions are available in person in Oaxaca or online. In-person sessions in Oaxaca offer the full scope of the work – somatic exercises, education, conscious touch, and integration – in a safe and private setting. Online sessions are available to clients anywhere in the world and focus on somatic coaching, education, and guided embodiment practices. Each session is a minimum of two hours – because this work asks for time. Time to arrive, time to go deep, time to integrate before you leave. Get in touch for rates and availability.
How It Works
Before We Meet:
Every new client begins with a short intake form and a free 15-minute call. This is a chance for us to meet, for you to ask questions, and for both of us to sense whether working together feels right. There is no pressure and no obligation.
During the Session:
Sessions are different for everyone and shaped entirely by what you bring. They may include:
• Somatic exercises to support full embodiment and presence
• Education around the body, sexuality, consent, desires, and limits
• Somatic bodywork, which may include conscious touch
• Space for reflection, integration, and simply being Nothing happens without your explicit consent. You are in charge of your experience at every moment.
After the Session:
Somatic work can continue to unfold after a session ends. If questions arise, emotions surface, or you simply need to process – I am available for follow-up communication. You will not be left to navigate that alone.
Workshops & Talks
I am open to offering workshops and talks for groups, organizations, and communities interested in somatic sex education, consent culture, embodiment, and related themes. If you are a facilitator, educator, wellness space, or community organizer and feel this work could serve your people – I would love to hear from you.